Forgiveness Self-Evaluation

 

If you have been through a challenging time with a person and you’d like to save the relationship…and make it an even better and deeper connection, forgiveness is your only choice. 

If you want peace and joy in your life, forgiveness is the only way to go.

 

Read each statement below, be still for a moment then ACCEPT or REJECT it. 

 

 

1.      I accept that I am in charge of my feelings.           

 

2.      I accept the responsibility for my present situation – of grief, sadness, joy, happiness, etc.

 

3.      I am in charge of my happiness.

 

4.      I accept that I have no control over someone else.

 

5.      I accept that if there is to be any change in my situation, only I can make it happen.

 

6.      I recognize that my partner does not see the world as I do.

 

7.      I recognize my tendency to see myself as NOT wrong (you are aware of  your desire to be right.)

 

8.      I recognize that I have blind spots regarding how I impact my partner.

 

9.      I understand how easy it is to blame others and accept that I do this more than I’d like.

 

10. I can express my hurt or disappointment without attacking or blaming.

 

11. I understand and accept that forgiveness is not only my duty as a spiritual being it is a gift to ME…I will be set free first.

 

12. I understand that holding a grudge made a part of me feel a warped sense of power…I accept that this is an illusion of power and it actually made me impotent.

 

13. I am able to examine my partner’s good qualities AND honor them.

 

14. I am willing and committed to saving and growing my relationship.

 

15. I understand that forgiving is NOT forgetting. I can remember yet still forgive.

 

16. I understand and accept that with or without an apology, forgiving is always MY responsibility.

 

 

17. I accept that if I wait for the apology, I will be hurting myself and my relationship.

 

18. I am willing to do whatever is necessary to leave the past in the past.

 

19. I am willing to take full responsibility for my own past baggage and seek help where needed.

 

20. I am committed to my personal healing and deliverance from pain.

 

21. I am willing to accept full responsibility for my present and personal peculiarities.

 

22. I accept that I will need to pray unceasingly. When my hurts, ego or pride is involved – which I accept as a sign of negativity taking over my thinking and feelings, I promise to pray and not blame; to be silently in prayer until God’s love for me and mine for Him floods my spirit.

 

23. I accept that God’s divine grace will always be available to me IF I am receptive.

 

24. I understand that though I may forgive today, I may need to renew my forgiveness as many times as is needed to heal.

 

25. I accept that my partner may not be perfect to me but is made perfectly in the image of God, and so am I.

 

26. I accept that I must be STILL in daily meditation if I expect to hear from God.

 

27. I am prepared and able to receive feedback from my partner about how I might have played a role in the hurtful event.

 

28. I am prepared to continue loving and praying for my partner, whether s/he is remorseful or accepts my apology. 

 

29. I am clear that my responsibility is to be loving and kind, patient and disciplined,  BEing the solution finder and peace lover at all times, in spite of my partner’s actions.

The rejected statements represent opportunities for further growth.

Record each rejected statement in your 'forgiveness journal' and allow yourself to meditate on it.  
What's the source of the resistance?  

Be still and listen to your inner guide. When you are moved to, write your thoughts and feelings about each statement.

Forgiveness like life is a process. The wonderful process of love.

In Light and With Love,

Julette
♥~