Day 18 - The Connection between Forgiveness & Integrity
Posted by Julette Millien at 3/19/2009 9:24 AM 
Categories: 21 Days of Action With FORGIVENESS
Tags: Five BASIC Principles Integrity 21 days of action Forgiveness Day 18
Categories: 21 Days of Action With FORGIVENESS
Tags: Five BASIC Principles Integrity 21 days of action Forgiveness Day 18
Hello!
I hope all is well on this 18th day of our journey together! Visit our wall and share a little of the experience with us? We would all be blessed, for sure.
Here is the specific forgiveness request for today:
1) Forgive someone who is YOUNGER than you. That's it, just forgive them.
And now for Integrity - the 3rd of the Five BASIC Principles of Forgiveness:
"Integrity and forgiveness: You cannot forgive a person or yourself if you are not being honest, brutally honest about the person’s role or your own role in the event.
You can only get to ‘the honest place’ with an INTENTION to be honest.
Honesty cannot happen by accident or because someone says you should be. There’s got to be an internal stirring in your soul and in your spirit, pulling you up to the truth. That internal stirring leads to a decision only you can make.
Once the intention is in place, you can move on to deeply think about the events in your life that you believe are at the source of your pain, anxiety and grudges.
Ask yourself powerful questions…open-ended, ‘how’ and ‘why’ questions. Follow the questions and the answers are sure to come. When recalling past events, try to be a reporter; simply reporting the facts, without the emotional overlay.
Very often we remember things emotionally and the facts can get distorted. Integrity will help you in this regard.
Without integrity you could be holding on to grudges that are based on your imagination. This of course has negative fallout for you and the person. For yourself, think about all you could be doing with the energies that are now devoted to feeling ‘phantom pain.’ So much of life and living gets put off when the heart is heavy.
This is even more so when you create – by virtue of a faulty memory – your own pain. Another consequence is the transporting of prejudices, based on these memories from one experience to the next. So now you have a traveling caravan of pain, from one person to the next to the next. This is sad even when the truth is at the root of it all.
I encourage you to engage in the process of forgiveness with an intention to be brutally honest. Take your share of responsibility and place blame only where it belongs. Anything less violates every rule of decency and will certainly make null and void any benefit from forgiveness that you’re hoping for.
AN ASIDE: if you are a survivor of childhood abuse - ANY kind, there is no blame or culpability to ascribe to yourself. There is no circumstance that could make this statement any less absolute. Children are NOT responsible for the wrong actions of adults."
...SHARE on the event wall, or at my blog...dialogue, sharing and placing thoughts in the light are wonderful ways to lighten the load AND give a gift to others who might be struggling with a similar issue. And of course sharing insights and ideas is always a blessing.
With Love and in Light,
Julette
♥♥♥
previous messages are here under 'Recent Entries' ► http://blog.myforgivenesskit.com
Me on Twitter
I hope all is well on this 18th day of our journey together! Visit our wall and share a little of the experience with us? We would all be blessed, for sure.
Here is the specific forgiveness request for today:
1) Forgive someone who is YOUNGER than you. That's it, just forgive them.
And now for Integrity - the 3rd of the Five BASIC Principles of Forgiveness:
"Integrity and forgiveness: You cannot forgive a person or yourself if you are not being honest, brutally honest about the person’s role or your own role in the event.
You can only get to ‘the honest place’ with an INTENTION to be honest.
Honesty cannot happen by accident or because someone says you should be. There’s got to be an internal stirring in your soul and in your spirit, pulling you up to the truth. That internal stirring leads to a decision only you can make.
Once the intention is in place, you can move on to deeply think about the events in your life that you believe are at the source of your pain, anxiety and grudges.
Ask yourself powerful questions…open-ended, ‘how’ and ‘why’ questions. Follow the questions and the answers are sure to come. When recalling past events, try to be a reporter; simply reporting the facts, without the emotional overlay.
Very often we remember things emotionally and the facts can get distorted. Integrity will help you in this regard.
Without integrity you could be holding on to grudges that are based on your imagination. This of course has negative fallout for you and the person. For yourself, think about all you could be doing with the energies that are now devoted to feeling ‘phantom pain.’ So much of life and living gets put off when the heart is heavy.
This is even more so when you create – by virtue of a faulty memory – your own pain. Another consequence is the transporting of prejudices, based on these memories from one experience to the next. So now you have a traveling caravan of pain, from one person to the next to the next. This is sad even when the truth is at the root of it all.
I encourage you to engage in the process of forgiveness with an intention to be brutally honest. Take your share of responsibility and place blame only where it belongs. Anything less violates every rule of decency and will certainly make null and void any benefit from forgiveness that you’re hoping for.
AN ASIDE: if you are a survivor of childhood abuse - ANY kind, there is no blame or culpability to ascribe to yourself. There is no circumstance that could make this statement any less absolute. Children are NOT responsible for the wrong actions of adults."
...SHARE on the event wall, or at my blog...dialogue, sharing and placing thoughts in the light are wonderful ways to lighten the load AND give a gift to others who might be struggling with a similar issue. And of course sharing insights and ideas is always a blessing.
With Love and in Light,
Julette
♥♥♥
previous messages are here under 'Recent Entries' ► http://blog.myforgivenessk
Me on Twitter
Could you help me. You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty.
I am from Uruguay and know bad English, tell me right I wrote the following sentence: "Find and book cheap airline tickets, hotel rooms, vacations and rental cars with kayak."
With respect 8), Katlyn.
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