Forgiving yourself is necessary!

Easier said than done right? 

I know, words are so easy to say and truths to spout.  But how do you really forgive yourself, if you don’t already have a habit of forgiveness?

 

An assumption is being made here and here it is: I am assuming that you believe that forgiveness is right and good; that it is the way to live that brings peace and joy.  This is my assumption as I suggest the following.

 

Loving yourself; forgiving yourself is possible when you have a desire to or, you already love yourself. So are you “feeling” worthy of love – yours or someone else’s? Are you loving you?

 

If not, stay here for a minute and create a miracle.  Change your mindset about that.  Just do it.

Decide that loving yourself is all that really makes sense.

Decide that you are worthy of love because you exist. Period.

 

It might be different for you but for me, I think of God and the power of love.

I think of the life of Jesus and how much He endured because of his love for me.

I think of the healing and miraculous power of love, which is God and I wonder how can I be anything but lovable when I was created by, with and for love!

 

ONCE you are clear about being a magnificent creation of love, forgiving yourself becomes a natural outcome.

 

Not forgiving you for mistakes causes pain, guilt, stress, anxiety – why would you do that to someone you love?

 

Mistakes are common; they occur everyday, big ones and little ones.  They are a fact of life.  And NO ONE goes  through life without making them. 

 

They are HOW we learn and how we GROW.

 

Thinking you are perfect and so mistakes are not forgivable is egotistical.

 

So get over yourself and accept your humanity – which by definition means you WILL be making mistakes.  Move on from there and accept how lovable you are.

 

What’s the obvious next step?

 

Yes, FORGIVE yourself for all you have done or not done to this point SO THAT you can move on to live a life of love and wellness.

 

Without this forgiveness of self, you will not have the life of your dreams.

 

Day 2 Assignment:

 

1. Review your list of things (in your forgiveness journal) to forgive and select something you will see and feel differently about TODAY.
2. Write about that choice and why you are releasing the guilt.
3. Write out what you are forgiving yourself for on a piece of paper and ceremoniously destroy that piece of paper
4. Do Forgiveness Ritual – sent earlier
5. Check in with accountability partner and discuss forgiveness process, actions taken and your intentions

If anxiety sneaks in, just say 'hey' and stay on your program.  Really! Anxiety is adrenalin and a rush of adrenalin means you are living life to the fullest, or trying to! 

Stick with what you know is right and try not to rely solely on your 'feelings.'

In Light and with Love,