My Recent Breakthrough

Posted by Julette Millien at 12/15/2008 4:25 PM
Categories: My Struggles and Triumphs



(the following is a message sent to a forgiveness group I lead)

Hello!

Over the past few weeks I've been faced with some challenging situations, requiring me to walk the talk of forgiveness.

It seems, even more challenging than violations to the self, violations of our children hurts mothers even more deeply.

And so it's been for me. 

It's been a struggle to NOT act and react with hurt and anger (fear.)

As a group of people interested in forgiveness - which I see as an interest in Love - I know you will understand the importance of putting love/forgiveness first, ahead of all other desires.  (Re)Acting from pain results in more pain, no matter how right or good it might feel at the time.

If love is not the motivation for my actions, then fear must be. 

I refuse to act from fear.   Fear based thoughts and actions might feel right as a mother; who wouldn't want to protect their children right?
But, even here the principle remains the same.  I had to face the tough truth.  Lashing out, seeking revenge, harboring negative thoughts HURTS me and my children over time.

Acting from fear can never help any situation to get better. (unless of course it's a need to protect yourself from imminent danger)

So I began, again,  to walk the talk of love and forgiveness.  Because it was what made sense and actually felt better. 

BUt here's the thing, it's important to honor your true feelings.  I had to accept my negative state and continue loving myself before I could move on.

I'm always thinking of ways to pass along my lessons to you, so here is a short exercise:

1.   Think of something you're afraid of  - for yourself or loved one
2.   Write in down
3.   Write a few sentences about what you think the source of the fear might be
4.    Now introduce some love...love for yourself.  Create a vision of you lovingly understanding this fear (even if you don't yet, just imagine the vision of you being compassionate towards your fearful state)
5.  As you more lovingly accept yourself in a fearful state, you'll find less need to be fearful.

Try it.  It's a vicious cycle that needs to be broken and love and acceptance is all that can work.

When we go through negative life situations, the more negative feelings we have and resist the harder it is to get to a better place.  It's a cycle that feeds on itself.

I hope  this helps you or helps you to understand someone's plight of pain.  Feed a negative situation some positive, accepting, love based thoughts and actions if you'd like to break the cycle. 

With Love and In Light,
Julette
♥♥♥

 

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