Love, Fear and Forgiveness
A quote from Marianne Williamson got me thinking about the relationship between love, fear and forgiveness:
"We're afraid of either failure or success.
If we're closer to success, we'll fear success.
If we're closer to failure, we'll fear failure.
The issue isn't success or failure.
The issue is the presence of fear,
and its inevitability wherever love is absent."
Un- Forgiveness is obviously fear based and not love based. Is that obvious? I shouldn't think anything is obvious.
Our actions and thoughts are either fear based or love based, one or the other. I challenge you to think of some action or emotion that is not one or the other.
Forgiveness is an act of love - love for self, love for life and sometimes love for others. It's a state of lightness and freedom which by definition is the opposite of the kind of bondage that comes with un-forgiveness.
So then, un-forgiveness is fear based...basically because when you choose to not forgive, you're operating from fear of something. Fear of being hurt or bothered again, fear of a person, fear of your past or maybe even fear of the future. Whatever the cause of the fear, it's a constricting, non-loving motivation.
I asked myself these questions about fear and love:
If you had a choice would you live in love or fear?
Which one, love or fear would bring you more happiness and peace?
Now mind you, I'm not talking here about healthy and necessary caution that some would casually call a 'fear' of lightening or of dark alleys or of dangerous animals. We're wired to defend our self and remain free from danger. That's not the 'fear' I'm talking about.
Which one describes the basis of your reactions to those people who have hurt or offended you, love or fear?
Honestly?
If you're operating from fear (anything that's not love, including un-forgiveness) how do you describe it?
If you're operating from love, how do you maintain that level of existence daily?
Today, I took stock of how often I linger in fear instead of love and wasn't happy - it was way too much valuable, otherwise creative time spent in a completely 'made-up' state.
Meaning, I made it all up.
Everything that isn't love, remember is based on fear.
Worry ~ I made it up
Frustration ~ I made it up
Anxiety ~ I made it up
Doubt ~ I made it up
Anger ~ I made it up
I made it all up with my thoughts, emotions and reactions.
So what did I do?
I decided to take note of whenever I slip from love to any of the above, to anything that is fear based.
For now, I'm just taking stock and making notes.
The change will come when the time is right.
How do I know that I made it all up?
Because:
1) No one else lives in me or is able to control me and
2) My God did not create me with fear.
I learned about fear as I grew and I can unlearn it.
Join me this week as I keep track of everything that is not of love.
No judgement, just consciousness and notes.
Have a Powerful and Insightful Week,
Julette ♥♥♥
"We're afraid of either failure or success.
If we're closer to success, we'll fear success.
If we're closer to failure, we'll fear failure.
The issue isn't success or failure.
The issue is the presence of fear,
and its inevitability wherever love is absent."
Un- Forgiveness is obviously fear based and not love based. Is that obvious? I shouldn't think anything is obvious.
Our actions and thoughts are either fear based or love based, one or the other. I challenge you to think of some action or emotion that is not one or the other.
Forgiveness is an act of love - love for self, love for life and sometimes love for others. It's a state of lightness and freedom which by definition is the opposite of the kind of bondage that comes with un-forgiveness.
So then, un-forgiveness is fear based...basically because when you choose to not forgive, you're operating from fear of something. Fear of being hurt or bothered again, fear of a person, fear of your past or maybe even fear of the future. Whatever the cause of the fear, it's a constricting, non-loving motivation.
I asked myself these questions about fear and love:
If you had a choice would you live in love or fear?
Which one, love or fear would bring you more happiness and peace?
Now mind you, I'm not talking here about healthy and necessary caution that some would casually call a 'fear' of lightening or of dark alleys or of dangerous animals. We're wired to defend our self and remain free from danger. That's not the 'fear' I'm talking about.
Which one describes the basis of your reactions to those people who have hurt or offended you, love or fear?
Honestly?
If you're operating from fear (anything that's not love, including un-forgiveness) how do you describe it?
If you're operating from love, how do you maintain that level of existence daily?
Today, I took stock of how often I linger in fear instead of love and wasn't happy - it was way too much valuable, otherwise creative time spent in a completely 'made-up' state.
Meaning, I made it all up.
Everything that isn't love, remember is based on fear.
Worry ~ I made it up
Frustration ~ I made it up
Anxiety ~ I made it up
Doubt ~ I made it up
Anger ~ I made it up
I made it all up with my thoughts, emotions and reactions.
So what did I do?
I decided to take note of whenever I slip from love to any of the above, to anything that is fear based.
For now, I'm just taking stock and making notes.
The change will come when the time is right.
How do I know that I made it all up?
Because:
1) No one else lives in me or is able to control me and
2) My God did not create me with fear.
I learned about fear as I grew and I can unlearn it.
Join me this week as I keep track of everything that is not of love.
No judgement, just consciousness and notes.
Have a Powerful and Insightful Week,
Julette ♥♥♥
I like the way that you say anything that isn't love is fear. I would like to agree, but I don't understand where anger and resentment come into play. Is that part of fear too? I know it isn't love, but I'm not sure if it is fear...
Justin
Austin, TX
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