How to Recognize and Manage Your Unprocessed Pain

Posted by Julette Millien at 6/24/2008 10:57 AM
Categories: Cat: Drop the baggage

How to Recognize and Manage Your Unprocessed Pain

Are you living a life that is not living up to your potential….for happiness? 
for joy? for peace? for prosperity? for goodness to others?

How about goodness to your self?

Are you completely satisfied with your first thoughts in the morning?

What about your last thoughts at night?

Are you sufficiently connected to a strong sense of gratitude?

Do you have bouts of recurring and unexplained sadness?  What about recurring un-ease and discomfort? 
For as long as you can remember have you been on and off a bit sad or numb or unpredictably down for no obvious reason?

Consider this:  Could the underlying reason for these occurrences be something to do with unprocessed pain?  Are you walking around with known or unknown extra baggage?  Whether you are aware of it or not, it’s still baggage.  It’s even more damaging when you are unaware.

Many, many people have unprocessed pain in their life, buried deep in their heart but easy to surface that they are simply not consciously aware of.  It’s like the miles of ice below the tip of the iceberg.  The ice is there and takes up much more space than the tip, but it’s not what we see.  The emotions and memories are there, having an impact on your life, but you may not be fully aware of their presence.

If you believe this is you and you can say clearly “I have pain in my life,” “pain I need to process,” and if you’d like to finally and completely process this pain and make room in your life for consistent joy and peace and love, then follow these 3 simple (but not necessarily easy)  steps: 

An Aside: Before you’re ready for these steps btw, you have to permit this pain to exist as best you can without trying to push it away or get rid of it.  It’s only after giving it some space to exist, and you feeling exactly what it feels like that you will have success in processing it.  So before doing these 3 steps give yourself some space and time to feel what exists in your heart.  NO judging it or editing it.  Just let it come up and experience it for exactly what it is.  Pain from being physically beat up and humiliated, feel it; pain from sexual abuse, before you even knew what sex was, feel it; numbness from not being able to connect to people because of feelings you can’t get to, acknowledge the numbness,   pain from the anger you feel towards your abuser or violators, feel it; deep hurt and disappointment from loved ones betraying your trust and vulnerability, feel it; anguish over not being treated the way you deserve to be treated, feel it; sadness about being alone, feel it.  Feel whatever is there to feel. Put a limit on how long you will feel it, but please allow yourself to honor those feelings.  Only then will you be ready to move on.

Once this is done, follow these 3 steps:

  1. First, sit still and ask this question out loud – Calling on whomever or whatever you turn to for help – “God, Jesus, Universal One, Deeper Being, Higher Self, Divine Being, All Knowing One…., I know there is something in the way of my peace, something in the way of my ability to benefit from your wisdom, please help me to shed light on this matter.  Please help me, I am ready to know.”  Then say “thank you God.” (place your preference here.) Say thanks with gratitude for what’s about to come.
  2. Second, sit still and simply wait in awareness.  Thoughts will rush at you, feelings will swell and contract, things will happen, just be aware of all that happens, don’t resist anything.  Just be aware.  Then become aware of your breathing and of the life within your body, the blood and the vessels, the light of life within.  Those thoughts will still try to take over, those feelings will still try to overwhelm…just be aware with no resistance and when ever you have an opportunity, become aware of breath and life as it exist right now, in this very moment.  Take note of sensations and answers that come to you but don’t “think” about them right now. Just be alert and aware.
  3. After 15, 20 minutes of being at step 2, record any insights – whether you understand them or not, of  feelings that came up.  Just record them on a blank piece of paper (preferably in a journal dedicated to this process.)  These are your pathways to deeper knowledge.  Your goal in step 3 is to gather and record information regarding this question/request that you put out into the universe… “please help me to shed light on…”  Answers always come when we ask a question or make a request, we’re just not trained to be still enough to hear them.  So be still and listen.

So basically, ask for the answer, be still and be aware, then record the answers that come to you.  With this approach you will open yourself up to receive guidance from your source.  You cannot rely simply on your thoughts and your feelings to take you to a free and unencumbered level of existence.  They cannot take you there.  You have to open your heart and allow divine wisdom to become conscious.  You have the answers but they’re all covered up with the noises in our head.  Don’t fight the noise just be aware of it. Don’t resist the pain, just experience it.

First feel what is present.  Then ask, be still to hear and record what you receive.

Divine wisdom will always point you in the direction of release, forgiveness and love.

When you are ready to move forward in forgiveness, visit us at www.MyForgivenessKit.com. 
Whatever you do, don’t go back to being unaware.  Go forward in the light and find your peace and joy.  Forgive and be free.

With Love,

Julette Millien

 

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